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Hello! Charlie and Stacy here. Our lives together began in 2013, when we started dating, got engaged, and were married all within six months of each other. We attended the same church, but it took us five years to start talking to each other. Once we finally did, we were inseparable!
Our son, Van, came along in 2016. As a family, you can typically find us playing disc golf, going to parks, biking to our local farmers market, and vacationing to warm places (Texas and Florida are favorites) during the winter. Our family is based on faith in Jesus, lots of laughter, and SO MANY snuggles. We run our own business in real estate and work from home while also getting to be stay-at-home parents. Charlie uses his skills in business and management while Stacy uses her insatiable need to craft and create in designing and staging flip houses. It’s definitely a unique work/life balance, but it works well, and we are so grateful for the freedom and family time it gives us.
Shortly after we were married, we found out we wouldn’t be able to make babies the good old fashion way. We were fortunate to conceive Van via IVF and now our deep desire to raise and love more children has led us to dive into the [crazy, hard, beautiful] world of adoption!
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
Just a little update into what we've been up to so far this summer: We started a garden! Neither of us has a green thumb so we are amazed that [most] things are actually growing. We are working on a huge flip house just 5 minutes away from us that has been so fun to see come together. There's been a lot of pool days at my parents house with friends and cousins. Charlie has been doing a summer skate boarding ministry where they travel to different skate parks all over Michigan. I've really enjoyed doing a homeschool curriculum with Van this summer- It's all about the pond/water ecosystem and he's loving it, too! There's also been ALOT of bike riding lately and, as always, farmers markets :) We continue to pray for whatever God's will is for our family in this adoption process and wish the very best to birth parents and other waiting families who are praying for the same thing! - Stacy
As always, summer has seemed to go by so quickly again! Despite a few things being different due to Covid19, we’ve been able to have a pretty normal summer and just wanted to give you a quick glimpse into what we’ve been up to. Van learned to swim (without floaties!) and ride a bike, so we’ve been doing those two things A LOT. Also making our weekly trip to the farmers market and learning new ways to cook and bake with our veggies and fruit. I (Stacy) cooked with squash blossoms for the first time (!!) and finally figured out how to make my grandmas amazing zucchini bread :) All summer we’ve been working on a fun house flip not too far away from us, so it was such a relief to have it all finished and under contract just a few days after being listed! We’ve also really enjoyed going to outdoor church all summer long, with a potluck and some friendly competition/ games each time. So much time was spent outside, with friends and family, and also a couple trips up to TC and Ludington. Van also turned 4 in August and we celebrated with a train themed party...
This may be the farthest thing from your mind if you're currently considering placing your baby for adoption BUT it could also be very important to you, so here goes: As Van approached year #5, we've really started to think about this more. We know things can always change and so much of it depends on the particular school, class, and child, but for now we plan to do some sort of hybrid homeschooling with our son (and any future children). We really like having the ability to take off and travel, to spend extra time with grandparents, and get to do/ see things that wouldn't be available in a traditional school setting. I was homeschooled for two separate years and in that time traveled to all 50 states and spent time in Australia and New Zealand. I loved having those experiences and I hope to pass them on to my children. Charlie has a slightly different experience- He did traditional schooling and spent most of the time goofing off and getting poor grades, but he excelled when he went off to college and in his subsequent careers. For him, it just wasn't the right enviroment to learn in and...
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